We are allowed to grieve, even for things not right for us. The wrong career path, the faithless lover, the secure job that doesn’t feed us, the accidentally deleted chapter, the abusive parent, the lottery ticket that blew away.
We are allowed to grieve our youthful recklessness, our wavering self-confidence, our blissful ignorance, our will to live. In other words, we are allowed to be human.
A while back I turned down the job offer of a lifetime. A position in that would provide two paychecks a month, health benefits, and retirement, for something I’m already skilled and experienced in doing.
Why would any reasonable, rational person do this? The answer is that no person in that frame of mind would. But that doesn’t mean I didn’t have good reasons. Not the least of which is: I need to write. It is that simple.
Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.
So said Joseph Campbell. How many of us truly believe in this? How many act upon that belief? Do I believe? On good days. Do I act on that belief? Well, in that case I did. In truth, I have been for years. Every time I put words to paper. So far though, most of those doors I’ve had to kick down or pry open.
I’m not whining. Ok, I’m whining a little. I understand that most writers work in the dark, with mostly self-manufactured hope. Which is known to wane from time to time. Unless you are one of those blissfully self-confident types. Which probably means you’re not a writer. So forget that last part.
As a writer, I believe in a few irrational things. One is that I can make a decent living as an artist. Despite society’s reluctance to do things like fund the arts or pay for books and music, I believe we still live in a world where the gift of art is essential to our lives.
Also, I still I grieve. For the opportunity I passed up, for the simplicity and stability it would have offered. And I also know myself well enough to understand that I am simply unable to cut the rope on all my head-banging-against-walls aspirations. On the writer’s shack in my backyard. On becoming living proof of the ability to live our dreams.
We cannot see into the future to determine what will be, what would have been. We cannot see into past lives to recapture what we learned there. Even looking backwards into this life, we are unable see clearly. Our vision is clouded by the lens of perception. Blake said, If the doors of perception were cleansed everything would appear to man as it is, Infinite. But absent the aid of mescaline or DMT, this is a difficult state to achieve.
What are we to do then, those of us so unavoidably fixed in our artistic inclinations? I see plenty of ridiculously talented artists around. Those who work the scene constantly, are connected and knowledgeable, and still must bartend or pull espresso in order to pay their rents.
There must be a way to rebuild our communities, our society, our nation-state, our world, so the bankers and defense contractors have to bus tables on the side. And the artists of the world, who enrich our lives so much more, could just focus on their art.
True, it isn’t just about money. Money, though, is an undeniable fact of life. Money is energy, a spirit made flesh. Like air or food, we rely upon it for our existence. If we had a thought to completely eschew money, we wouldn’t have incarnated here. We’d have stayed in the unbroken realm of light.
Because we are here, we agreed at some point to take on this messy state of being. We agreed to ride the ever-shifting balance between the mud and the rays of light. Wearing this skin means we not only experience joy and happiness, but doubt, grief, and sorrow. One of the tricks to being human is to master the alchemy of turning these states of being into beauty.
If we want our lives to be filled with beauty, we must be brave enough to create it, generous enough to pay for it, compassionate enough to support it, and bold enough to see our vision through to fruition.
When you want something, all the universe
conspires in helping you to achieve it.
–Paulo Coelho
Despite my occasional frustration, I still believe. And I still grieve. And this is the clay from which art is made.
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Note: This essay was written several years ago. Since then, I closed my private law practice and took a government job in another city. I am still writing. (I plan to keep writing as long as I am physically and mentally able.) Though between the structured job, the commute, and the transportation needs of my teenager, the amount of time available for writing projects is noticeably less than it used to be. What does this mean? Have I stopped following my bliss? No. Have I given up? No. Do I suffer periods of despair? Yes. Am I aware of the hands of the clock? Of course.
As Liz Gilbert would say, this is my vocation. And so what choice do I have? The truth that I’ve come to realize is that the creative life chose me. And I will continue to be in relationship with it. For better or for worse. In sickness and health. Mostly because I cannot imagine my life without it. My belief in art and my place in its world is not just a pipedream, not some childish romantic notion, it is who I am. It is stitched into my being. It is part of me and I am part of it. We belong to one another as we belong to the universe and its magical unfolding. We will continue to journey together into the mystic because we are one mind, one body, one spirit. Will you come with us?
Believe in Art
I am not familiar with that novel. I have been focusing mainly on non-fiction lighthouse reading having come into this arena later than most in the community. I am starting to branch out a bit more into historical fiction and am compiling a reading list of recommendations. I will add your suggestion to my list. I actually collect lighthouse books (those geared to adults and to kids).
What intrigues you about lighthouses?
I decided to follow my bliss...retired from a 32-year career as a hospital pharmacist to study lighthouses and be a keeper at one. I traded a complex financially stable/secure life for a simple (unpaid) adventure. Now I am exploring writing about my journey from pharmacy to pharology and all the amazing things I am noticing and learning. I took a similar photo to yours above. Someone paused to decorate a random tree along a dead end road for Christmas. The color of your ornament (red) and the soft snowflake cap (white) mimic the colors of my lighthouse.